See also: Ten Reasons you may be dating Mr. Wrong
Falling in love and staying in love are two different things. It’s easy to fall in love, but the real challenge is keeping the bond together between you and your loved one. So how do you know when to end it? How do you know when she is just not the one for you?
Finding the Match
“Be as eager to end a bad relationship as you are to start a good one,” said Ed Collins, the Dean of Students. Finding a girlfriend can look hard, but it’s pretty easy. The one thing you must remember is high school relationships don’t matter.
Go into the relationship with the mindset that in the future, it will most likely end whether you like it or not. If you are on the borderline, “trust your gut” as Language Arts teacher Amy Prescott says.
Don’t have your friends influence your relationship, because in the long run, it’s not their relationship. “Date who you want to date, not because your friends want you to” says Collins. As well as Rob Merte says, “Make sure you keep your friends.”
Set a High Value on Yourself
Do you get intimidated when you see a really attractive woman? Do you sometimes tell yourself that the women you are interested in are just out of your league? When a woman rejects you, do you put yourself down because you don’t think you are good enough for them?
Putting a low value on yourself is one element women do not find appealing in men. Confidence is one trait in which women are attracted to in men.
So instead of bringing down your confidence level and you’re dating chances, put a high value on yourself.
“You can’t be a Debby downer, because it’s not fun when they’re mad” said Tony Bima, a junior at Milford. Even if at first you deny it and don’t believe yourself, after a while you will start changing your mindset on yourself and thinking of yourself in a healthy and positive way. You never know how your confidence level can change your love life.
Talk about it
Holding in a problem can cause an even bigger problem. Talking something out can seem like a pain, but after you talk something out, both sides will most likely feel better about the situation.
“Confront the other person about the problem,” said Junior Ellie Bothwell. When you talk something over, do not get angry. Talk in a calming voice and explain your side of the story, then let the other person explain their side. “Talk it out and don’t ignore them when they are mad…just say sorry and get over it,” Carline said.
Talking to the Woman
Most men do not know how to approach a woman, or even know how to read a woman.
Most head in the wrong direction when it comes to talking to the one they are interested in; they direct the conversation towards just getting a date or a number and are not concerned about being a gentleman. Women are more indirect and prefer to learn about the person, paying attention to small details, rather than what men try to accomplish, which is just getting her number and jumping into a first date.
Women like when a guy is natural when it comes to conversation, with ambiguity, uncertainty, and manners.
When you meet a woman for the first time, don’t just get the digits, compliment her and talk about her, not just yourself. Be a gentleman.
Open the door for her. Pay for her dinner. Ask her out on a date; just don’t ask to “hang out”.
“I was always old school and had class,” said Dave Gilbert, a Special Education teacher. Be interested in what she has to say (even act like you are if you really need to) and always agree with her.
Joe Laginess, an English teacher, says “listen to the woman.”
Many males have learned always tell the woman she is right, because the woman is always right, even if you know she isn’t. Junior Alex Larson, says “Always tell the woman she is right”
All in all, relationships can be easy to get into, but the real challenge is staying in one. A relationship can be genuine and good, but you have to work for it. Treat your lady with respect, and you will get the relationship you are searching for.